Even though I believe life continues in the afterlife, the concept of death remains deeply challenging. Death is an inescapable reality for all, yet accepting it fully is something I struggle with. The thought of bidding farewell to loved ones is something I would never welcome. Accepting death will never be easy, even though I believe it is merely a transition into another form of existence.
The pain of knowing that you can no longer share moments with a loved one is profound. Why, then, would anyone want to prepare for that moment? When death occurs, it is inevitable, but it's not something I am eager to face. Despite writing extensively about the spiritual world and life after death, I find it hard to accept that we must one day leave this earthly realm. Imagine how much more difficult it must be for someone who doesn't believe in life after death.
People frequently encourage us not to be afraid of death, but it’s not death itself that instills fear. It's the sadness it brings—the moment you can no longer hear your loved one's voice, touch them, or see them. The relationships and closeness we share with each other are shattered by death, creating a unique feeling I call the "ultimate sadness." Time doesn't heal this wound; it merely helps us cope with it.
I've heard people say we should rejoice for the dead because they have gone to a better place and will no longer endure the pains of this life. Conversely, we should cry when a baby is born because of the unknown challenges they will face. However, I believe people say these things for comfort.
As much as we might tell ourselves to rejoice when a loved one dies, we only do so if we didn't care deeply about them. Otherwise, mourning is a natural and healthy response from our soul and body.
In my culture, we believe that our loved ones return in spirit and communicate with us through dreams or by using the body of a living person as a medium. Even with this belief, it remains painful to witness a loved one move from the physical realm to the spiritual one. It's different from when we are both alive.
When a loved one dies, I can no longer seek their advice or enjoy their company in the same way. I've lost many close relatives and friends, and no matter how often it happens, I can never get used to seeing a loved one leave the physical realm to transition to the spiritual world. This will always cause me pain, and I understand that others feel similarly.
So, as much as I write about the spiritual world and the afterlife, remember that I am human. Having knowledge about the spiritual realm doesn't exempt me from experiencing the same emotions as everyone else. Just because I know someone will live on in the afterlife doesn't mean I won't mourn them. In fact, I wouldn't want them to die at all. But at the end of the day, this is how both life and the afterlife are meant to be.
One day, when I die, I may realize the benefits of the afterlife compared to this life. For now, though, this earthly existence is all I have known since birth. We all know that staying forever isn't possible, and I believe this is why death is not a choice but a necessity, ensuring balance in the grand scheme of life.
