When a loved one passes away, it is believed that death is not the end. In my tradition, we hold that the spirit lives on while the body returns to the earth. This belief shapes the rituals we follow to honor and care for our loved ones even after their passing. Here are the steps we take to ensure their smooth transition into the spiritual world.
Lighting a Candle: Guiding the Spirit
The first step when someone close to you dies is to light a candle and place it on an altar or table, preferably in their room. A glass of water with a cross made from coconut tree leaves stems is also placed on the table. Moreover, a photograph of the deceased should be placed on the table too.
Preparing the Bed: Welcoming the Spirit
Next, the deceased's bed should be neatly arranged with white sheets. Change the curtains in the home to black and white, and place a black ribbon on the entrance door. Following this, family members unite in prayer.
Why Light a Candle?
Traditionally, it is believed that the candle helps the spirit find its way in the spiritual world. Without it, the spirit might be lost. The candle serves as the first light to guide them on their journey.
Why Place a Glass of Water?
The water is thought to cleanse the spirit in the spiritual realm and satisfy its thirst during the transition phase. This act ensures the spirit has the sustenance it needs as it navigates its new realm.
Why Make the Bed?
It is thought that the spirit will return and lay in the bed once more. To welcome them, the bed must be well made with white sheets, signifying purity and peace.
Why Pray?
Prayers offered by family members help the spirit find its way in the spiritual world and cross over to the realm of good spirits. This collective act of devotion and love aids the spirit in its journey.
These practices have been passed down through generations and continue to be observed, even as times change and new generations evolve. They represent a deep connection to our heritage and a reverence for the spiritual journey of our loved ones.
